Wednesday, January 28, 2009

In Bed, Not In Love


I finished inside her and laid on top for a minute. She smiled and I smiled and we both started giggling. I pulled out and we rolled around the bed, entangled in damp sheets as we continued to kiss. My sweat intermingled with hers and our flush faces pressed against each other still. The urge to say something grandiose and sweeping and magnificent just like in the movies hit me, as it always does when I sleep with a girl and it's more than just sex and you're both in bed and naked and not at all wanting to back away. I bit my tongue though and I just smiled.
She volleyed first:

"Well this might complicate things."

"Possibly"

"I don't think you're ready for something like this."

"Probably not" I replied as we started kissing again. She leaned back and through giggles, managed to break out a serious question.

"When will you be ready?"

"I don't know."

I've had this conversation more than a few times before, and it's like any other interrogation. The less you say, the better. She reads this blog though, so the whole "saying less" thing goes straight out the window. I don't feel the need to hide anything.

I'm too out of control right now. I'm fairly sure the only girl for me, at this moment, will have to be a complete lunatic also. And that's okay.
It's exciting to think about how much I still have to experience down the road.

22 comments:

Taylor said...

No offense Jack, you know I love ya but, I am so fucking tired of hearing guys say that they aren't ready.

The Brooklyn Boy said...

Being terse is the best policy. Honesty ... well, that's debatable. People like the white lies.

Miss said...

your not ready because she isn't the girl

The Brooklyn Boy said...

Miss -- Need to throw this out there, but "being ready" isn't dependent on the girl being right. Because in my own experience and this recent post from Jack, the guy can be "ready" and end up getting his ass kicked.

Jack Goes Forth said...

I personally think I'm not ready because I'm a 25 year old child.

But who knows? Maybe the "right" girl will appear Starbucks today and I'll change my tone completely.

Thanks BB.

Anonymous said...

It sounds like from the giggling and the smiles alone, that this one is more than just a fling.

Am I right?

Sarah said...

What I don’t understand is why people can’t have a strong connection, great sex, giggle, roll around...all of that shit and still not be ready? I am a full supporter of the whole not being ready but still enjoying each other’s company scenario. It's fabulous.

Jack Goes Forth said...

I agree with you Sarah. I enjoy that scenario also.

Unfortunately one or both of the parties start to catch feelings and other shit when the rolling and giggling keeps happening and happening and happening. It's usually the female who wants more, but I've been there too.

Richmondite said...

The big question is, did you wear a condom you dirty bastard? Hahaha

Sarah said...

No shit Jack :)I am aware people catch feelings, I know I have before. I just don't appreciate when the other party puts to much pressure on being ready. Because really "being ready" for a relationship or whatever, comes with a lot of work and a bunch of other shit that has nothing to do with the feelings aspect of the situation.

PRCaliGurl said...

hmm...why is there always a need to complicate things? Can't ya just "be".... keep it simple?..don't complicate...jeez...have great dirty sex, eat spagetti-o's off eachother's naked body,run half naked to 711 at 4am for hotdogs,just have fun as much as possible.Life sucks too much to complicate..just as much as being alone sucks.So of you have someone you like to be around.. Let it be...and it just might " be" Your Tetris.

dchero said...

Dude, what is this world coming to with blog exposure? A few weeks ago I ran into my high school gf's mom and she yelled at me about shit on my blog. I mean what the fuck, there needs to be a blogger rights amendment or some shit because blog material is hurting.

Anonymous said...

PRCaligirl - much props. Single?? :o)

GJ said...

I'm waiting for a psychotic angry comment left from one of the girls you blog about that just takes the cake in terms of internet insanity.

Or have they happened already and you moderated them out?

Miss said...

BB and Jack... When it's right it's just right and when the ass kicking comes it's only followed by awesome make up sex never in a heartache so if some stupid slut left you heartbroken and all jacked up with baggage fuck her and move on and know you learned from the mistake but ultimately she was just toughening you for the next round I am a huge non believer in love at first sight and all that bull but I believe in two people being so compatible that it's just right.... Don't you? And when it's right you'll be ready because your not going to really have to try to make it work.... Love is a feling there should be no work involved in making it grow

The Brooklyn Boy said...

Miss - I think you're arguing a different point. I was saying only that the guy can be "ready" regardless of whether the girl is right.

While I can't speak for Jack, as you suggested, I "learned from the mistake," and thusly don't regret a second of it -- despite the wrenching-at-times ass-kicking.

However, saying there's no "work" involved is a theory I believe to be a little undercooked. Yes, it should develop "naturally" and you should be able to recognize when there's an obvious imbalance in how hard each person is "trying." But I know that, for me, I'd have to block time out of a work and social schedule that makes it difficult to see the same people on a regular basis. That's work.

And making sure I'm not hiding behind any emotional walls, that's a LOT of work. I've been with plenty of girls who would have been great for me, but I didn't let go with because I came up with a reason not to. Maybe here's where you'd say I wouldn't have a reason if she were "right," but I'd counter by saying I'd still have the reason, I'd just "work" past it.

I feel many things about this issue, obviously. Ha.

Miss said...

What your saying indeed holds true a man can be ready yet the girl could be wrong....I notice how some commented that they were sick of men using the impervious "I'm not ready" excuse it's not an excuse it's a polite way of saying I want to continue having sex with you but your not the girl I'd ask to spend the night.... Instead of feeling bad run free he just saved you from 3 years of hardship....

And BB your right about the wrong girls coming at the right time so Jack be cautious girls have many many layers even if you miraculously become ready girls will scheme to be your right girl.... Really your kind of a catch ;)

The Brooklyn Boy said...

Miss - excellent points, all.

Miss said...

What your saying indeed holds true a man can be ready yet the girl could be wrong....I notice how some commented that they were sick of men using the impervious "I'm not ready" excuse it's not an excuse it's a polite way of saying I want to continue having sex with you but your not the girl I'd ask to spend the night.... Instead of feeling bad run free he just saved you from 3 years of hardship....

And BB your right about the wrong girls coming at the right time so Jack be cautious girls have many many layers even if you miraculously become ready girls will scheme to be your right girl.... Really your kind of a catch ;)

Jackgoesforth said...

I'm glad I could start a dialogue between you too (BB and Miss). All excellent points and good stuff all around.

Oh and Miss, I'm quite a catch? Really? You must not know me very well...or you maybe you do. I don't know.

GJ- No psycho stuff yet. If I blog about a girl it's almost always with her permission, although that wasn't always the case. I think a lot of girls secretly wanna be blogged about. They just say they don't. Liars!

Miss said...

Your right you know me.... But not as much as you'd like...

Jack Goes Forth said...

Hmm...Okay well we can change that.