There's a lot of shit that you don't want people to know and sometimes the first few dates or first few drunken sessions with a person you like can bring these things to the surface...
Everything from drunken emotional admissions to actually physically stripping bare in front of that person are huge barriers in the beginning of any relationship.
I guess the question I sometimes face is whether or not I have the patience to deal with that person's insecurties? I feel like I'm coming to a point where I can lay myself in front of a woman and be honest about everything (in my case this is probably the LAST thing I should do) and I'm sure I want a girl who can do likewise.
On the flipside I'll have jealousy pangs when hearing about a girl's past lovers or past experiences, but it won't turn me away (unless shes hit the century mark for previous sexual partners.....ok wait, that doesn't bother me as much as it should).
Insecurities are unattractive and it's a daily struggle for everyone(including myself) to get past the little things that tend to gnaw at our own self-worth.
What does this post mean? Ummmm, well it means:
Having more than just a fling with someone is not as easy as just "having a fling with someone." -JackGoesForth
(yeah I've been drinking and yeah I got shit on my mind. So.... um. Go fuck yourself :)